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The Wedding of Alexandra Elizabeth Enderle and Scott Patrick Panzarino

The Wedding of Alexandra Elizabeth Enderle and Scott Patrick Panzarino

2014 begins. I report woefully late on a very joyous occasion that took place nearly two months ago.  No need to rehearse the reasons for my tardiness; enough to say that somewhere between then and now I celebrated my eighty-second birthday.  Age deserves some consideration... and I'll gladly take it.

On Saturday, November 16th, at three o'clock in the afternoon I was privileged to participate in the wedding of Alexandra Enderle and Scott Panzarino, in the beautiful venue of St. Raymond's Catholic Church in East Rockaway, New York.  The bride is a member of that church and attended its parochial school.  The groom is a member of Grace United Methodist Church and a couple of decades earlier I guided him through his confirmation lessons.  The pastor of St. Raymond's, Fr. Charles Romano (who prefers to be called "Father Chuck") couldn't have been more welcoming to this retired Methodist clergyperson, and virtually gave me free rein to do my thing in the service; which I did, a trifle lengthily, but I hope not annoyingly. Here's "my thing." 

Made for Each Other

A couple of weeks ago as I watched you walking hand in hand down the main street in Port Jefferson, a song, a camp song I sang often years and years ago, came immediately to mind.  At that retreat site at the east end of Long Island where I once attended and worked, and where, surprise, you, Alexandra, and your classmates from your Catholic school spent a few days, I once joined the chorus around the campfire to sing ďTell Me Why.Ē  I spare you my baritone and just recite the verses:

Tell me why the stars do shine
Tell me why the ivy twines
Tell me why the oceanís blue
And I will tell you just why I love you.

Because God made the stars to shine
Because God made the ivy twine
Because God made the ocean blue
Because God made you thatís why I love you.

I really do think that God above
Created you for me to love
He picked you out from all the rest
Because God knew I loved you the best.

Scott to Alex and Alex to Scott.  Made for each other.  Age and geographical equivalency may help to explain it.  Parental excellence helps.  But thereís something more, much more.  You believe it.  Hold on to it for the next fifty years and more.  If marriages are made on earth (yes, they are, day by day), they are nonetheless designed in heaven.  

The heavenly design is implicit in the reading you chose from Genesis; and it is made explicit in the succeeding chapter where Eve is made for Adam and Adam for Eve.  Godís hand and mind and heart are behind this moment of lifelong connection for the two of you.

The passage from I Corinthians has a different relevance for your marriage.  It prescribes the quality of the love you will share with each other.  The Apostle Paul is telling you and everyone else how to make, among the several important human connections, a marriage on earth.  With love, love like the love of Jesus Christ for us, full of self-giving, patient beyond all reason, kind, upbeat, never insistent on its own way or elseÖ well, you heard the passage read.  Keep a bookmark at that place in the Bible youíll be keeping on the bedside table.

Should you have any questions about the application of those wise instructions about love, you can call Father Chuck or Pastor Howard; but even better consult those four people who have lived it and from whose love you have issued, Lynn and John and Diane and Pat.

You go in love with each other, surrounded by the love of God, and the love of these dear family members and friends.  Blessings piled upon blessings.

The wedding reception was held at the Bridgeview Yacht Club in Island Park. Among the guests was a contingent from Grace United Methodist Church, Valley Stream, including the Browns, the LoBellos, the Smyths, and the Vetters.  Alex's Dad sang to her in a very appealing and touching Irish tenor voice.  The band played, the guests, especially the young ones, danced and danced.  The libations flowed.  You might have thought you were at Cana of Galilee for all the happy humanity.

Alexandra is a student affairs assistant at Molloy College.  Scott served in the U. S. Marine Corps for several years providing security for American embassies around the world. He left the Marines more than a year ago, and he has recently completed training as an officer for the Nassau County Police Dept.  The bridal couple will defer their honeymoon until late spring 2014.  Their apartment in Long Beach was flooded by Hurricane Sandy and they now reside inValley Stream.



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